Long distance relationship: advice on dos and don’ts

Through our experience working with long-distance relationship partners, we had discovered that there are many things we must do and must refrain from doing in order to survive the relationship. Below are some of the tips we’ve collected over the years. Although they may seem simple, when it comes to actual execution, it may take more than your effort and discipline. It is your desire to survive the relationship that has the greatest impact in writing the outcome of your long-distance relationship. Consider some of the things listed below, and along with your wish, I’m pretty sure you will be able to conquer your long-distance relationship with ease and fun.

Behind

1) Establish an effective communication channel

The first thing to do in a long-distance relationship is to establish an effective communication channel. Most people will think that the telephone is the most convenient mode of communication, but in addition to telephone services, there are other alternatives that you can use. Instant messaging, emails, VOIP phone, and regular emails can be very effective if you know how to use them. Each of the communication channels has its own advantages and disadvantages and therefore you should start exploring each of them to enhance your communication experience.

2) plan to meet

There is nothing more important than planning to meet again at a time slot during the period of your long distance relationship. This will help you and your partner catch up on the things you can’t do while you are apart. The anticipation of seeing each other again will always give you excitement, hope, and also remove the feeling of loneliness in your LDR.

3) Build a hobby that both of you can share

By building and maintaining a hobby, both of you will have something to discuss and work on throughout your long-distance relationship. Finding something to do online can be quite interesting judging by your speed and reach ability, but never let go of the conventional hobby because you don’t need to have your partner’s physical present to share a hobby.

4) Surprise your partner

From time to time surprise your partner with cards, gifts, letters, and flowers outside of your expectations, apart from your usual correspondence. Put your imagination to use and your partner will surely love your effort to keep them happy. Sending the unexpected gifts to your partner will always encourage your long-distance relationship to what extent your partner can be.

5) Capture and share that interesting moment

During your LDR period, you can always capture an interesting moment of yours by exchanging photos, video clips and audio recordings. This will indirectly keep your partner informed about what has happened in your life despite the physical distance.

Not to do

1) Subject to temporary replacement

One of the mistakes a long distance partner makes is settling for a temporary replacement when your partner is not physical. By allowing a third party to come into your life, you will not only put your long-distance relationship at risk, but you will also break the mutual trust and agreement you make. Although it may not be done intentionally, this type of mistake will be very costly for your long distance relationship.

2) Take the relationship lightly

The absence of your partner does not give you the license to dictate and manipulate the relationship. You must remember that your partner has their own right to participate in any decision-making for the well-being of their relationship, regardless of where they are. A long distance relationship is also as important as a normal relationship and your partner has the right to be treated fairly.

3) Wait and see the attitude

Most of the long-distance failures we observe are contributed by the wait-and-see attitude of the partners themselves. This was caused by the insecurity of the couple since they do not believe that the LDR works but at the same time they do not want to stop the relationship. Let me tell you this, if you plan to have this kind of attitude, avoid walking into one in the first place because both you and your partner will suffer in the relationship. In an LDR, both partners must be engaged and proactive to take the relationship to a higher level.

4) Suspicion

There is no room for suspicion in a long distance relationship. In order for you to survive your long distance relationship, you must learn to trust your partner wholeheartedly. A single suspicion will break the bond you have with each other and it is the beginning of the end if you begin to suspect your partner at any point in your LDR. Although easier said than done, trust me, if your partner is prone to cheating on you, they will still do it right under your nose. So you don’t need to create such unnecessary stress on your LDR.

5) succumb to negative comments about LDR

Couples in long-distance relationships are always wrong in believing that LDRs don’t work. The negative impression you have on LDR will eventually haunt you and destroy your relationship if you choose to hear the negative comment. Therefore, once you have decided to enter into a long distance relationship, you must learn to believe that your relationship will work. I knew it because I had successfully conquered my own long distance relationship because I am not influenced by any of the negative comments that I received.