Teflon, Egos and Pounds

Ladies, have you been the audacity to ask a guy out on a date? Or did he ask for his number? Did they look at you weird or did they look very nervous? I say this because some men really turn off when the woman takes the initiative to approach them. I find this fucking hilarious, because most of these men who are disturbed by this feminine “focus” are the same ones who usually feel like they shouldn’t be doing all the work. When men attempt daring gestures, it is generally considered romantic. When women do it, it is often considered desperate and psychopathic.

All the austerity of a woman going after what she wants should be really exciting. However, the male “ego” (for some men) becomes the driver as you allow opportunity to fade into the background. Be an opportunist! Take the wheels!

I find this dilemma very interesting because it happened to me recently… he flirted with me a bit and I asked for his number. You could see his whole demeanor changed, he looked nervous and when I asked his name I got a “umm Peter…” I called him and left him a voicemail giving him my number. They didn’t call me back, I texted him no response… Now one could say he wasn’t interested and that could be a valid point.

But I honestly believed that wasn’t the case, look before you asked for her number, her body language showed that it was. She leaned in as she spoke, making sure she had direct eye contact and smiling as well.

After asking for her number, he looked around. I guess you could tell he seems very nervous. The cake topper for me was when, after saving his number in my phone, I reached over to shake his hand and he gave me a…pound…yes ladies, a pound (he smacks the hand on the forehead).

I admit, I got stuck for a bit, really mate? In some strange world, an attractive woman looks completely off course for being interested in a guy and he responds with a pound. In any case, she is “you”. You are so completely consumed by your male ego that you cannot bear the fact that there is a confident and strong woman in front of you. Last time I checked it was actually considered normal behaviour, so yes Mr Mr Pound “boy” he’s crazy not me!

See the funny thing about the situations I faced when I was dating, I learned how to develop a teflon coating. View Teflon pots and pans are made to form a natural barrier that prevents food from sticking. I used that same concept when I received dating successes. If not, these blows would eventually consume you.

So ladies, when you take on these selfish cowards, don’t let it stick, wash it off and keep it moving!

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