Chicken Soup For The Broken Hearted

Finding out that your partner has cheated on you is one of the biggest surprises you will have. There is no greater pain than the pain of betrayal, especially the betrayal of your lover. It literally feels like your heart has been ripped out of your chest, stomped on it, and then put into a blender. The world you thought you had suddenly collapses around you and you no longer know what is real. Has everything been a lie? It was my fault? Could I have prevented this? Did you ever love me? You obsessively ask yourself these questions over and over again. It can even get to the point where you can’t cry anymore, you’re just numb to everything. It seems that this hell will never end!

I’m not going to lie, healing a broken heart is never that easy to do, and honestly time is one of the best things for a broken heart. However, there are things you can do to improve it and possibly cut that time in half. When I was going through my personal hell of finding out that my husband had been cheating on me the whole time we were together, I discovered a list of 7 things that made my heartbreak a little less.

1) Change your cell phone number. I’m not telling you again, don’t give your ex your new phone number! You are getting a new cell phone number so you can’t call and cheat on him again. Once a cheater, always a cheater, and always remember that! That was the first thing I did because I knew my ex and I knew myself and I didn’t want to break up with him again.

2) Send a friend to fetch your belongings for you. I’m assuming by now you’ve moved or haven’t been back since you found out. The last thing you need right now is to go back to the place where you had many memories with your ex. It’s too painful and you might even go blind for a minute and remember all those good memories you had together and completely forget that he’s a CHEAT!

3) Try to be around friends and family as much as possible. I know probably all you feel like doing right now is curling up in bed with a gallon of cookie dough ice cream, but I urge you to put that ice cream down and go! Isolation is the worst thing you can do, now is the time to make good use of your support system. I’m sure you would be just as equal to them, so don’t be afraid to ask for help.

4) Go see or rent a really funny comedy movie. There’s nothing better than putting your brain aside for a few hours to watch a pointless comedy. At least it’ll take your mind off things for a while, and you know what they say; “The laugh is the best medicine”!

5) Keep a journal. There is no better way to clarify your feelings than to write them down on paper. There is nothing worse than keeping all that crap in your head where you can endlessly obsess over everything. so go ahead and get it all out and put it on paper, you’ll feel like a weight has been lifted off your mind.

6) Get rid of all memories of your relationship. Keep, give away or even throw away anything that reminds you of your ex. Hide them out of sight so they don’t occur to you until you can remember the relationship without feeling any pain around it.

7) Maintain a strict no contact policy with your ex and stick to it. Don’t make calls. Stay away from texting or instant messaging. This is the only way you can get your strength back and truly move on with your life. If it’s still spinning, it will be almost impossible for your heart to fix itself. I know it will be hard, trust me I’ve been there, but you’ll look back a few months from now and be so thankful you did.

To all those who have ever been deceived, I want to say that I feel your pain and I promise that you will come out the other side of this hell a stronger, more confident and wiser person. It will get better, keep your heads up my friends!