Personal Trainer Says: Your Mirror Is Making You Fat

Hello there,

Last week at my training camp, someone mentioned, “I don’t remember who now, but they commented on how fat they looked.” Of course, my initial reaction was, “You’re crazy!” -and I say this because I know NO ONE in my class is overweight, they just haven’t reached superhero status YET!

But then something strange happened … when I looked closer at the mirrors in the studio, I noticed that I looked fat, in fact everyone in the studio looked bigger than they really were. That’s when I realized that all mirrors were like those funny distorted mirrors at theme parks. When you are a child those mirrors dirty our view of anything we put in front of them.

They made us look tall or short or fat or thin, and it was a lot of fun because we knew it was a gimmick. At 20, 30 and 40 years old the jig is over and it is not so much fun anymore.

It really got me thinking that most of us have these completely messed-up images of ourselves in our heads, and these thoughts quickly turn into what we believe to be true. If the “fat mirror” in your head makes you look fat, then it must be true.

You want to see a quick example. Go to someone you know and say, “You look great, have you lost any weight?” Almost instinctively, they will flinch and say “Are you kidding me? I need to lose x more” or “Do you really think so?” It doesn’t matter how much weight you lose or how many people tell you how good you look. The only thing that is reflected in your fat mirror is that you guessed it: “I’m fat.”

Does anyone want to buy a “Skinny Mirror”? Of course yes, who doesn’t! First things first, you have to give the old “Fat Mirror” nudge. You need to get rid of all the toxic waste of “I’m fat” or “I’m never going to lose this weight” or “Who do I think I am? I can’t lose that much weight.” ?

Your thoughts may not make you fat, but they sure want to keep you there. Probably correct? What if you gave yourself permission to be who you want to be? What if you tried to replace that annoying little voice with something less intimidating like, “I can just do a minute of this.” Why not? What have you got to lose?

I know this is weird new age chatter, and it feels like swimming naked hoping you won’t get caught. It’s really a small thing, you don’t have to try to paint a whole picture today, all I’m saying is maybe you can try a different canvas and start over.

This week I challenge you to go ahead and accept yourself as you are … Yeah, that means loving the muffins, the muffin top, the Buddha belly, your whole perfect self.

For a whole week, take out a sticky note and write down some of these positive affirmations below. That is all! Stick it on your bathroom mirror and repeat by brushing your teeth, trying on your new skirt, whatever.

* I am my perfect self

* Today I am thinner

* I look very sexy today

* Losing weight is very easy for me

* My ass looks fantastic

* I am losing weight slowly but surely

* I’m fine as a ticket on a board

* I am on the path to good health and a great looking body.

* I’m proud of myself for not getting the tall and thin latte with a shot of hazelnut today.

* I love how I feel after running

* I love the feeling of being slim and sexy

* I’m ready to get slim again

* It feels so good to have a toned body and a healthy body.

* I have tons of energy to exercise

* My health is extremely important to me.

* Taking care of myself gives me a lot of confidence

* I am committed to doing whatever it takes to lose weight and be healthy.

* I deserve to be healthy in body and mind.

* The best form of self-love I can give myself is exercise.

* I enjoy life when I am in good shape

Because slim women and men like Mike “The Situation” are viewed as the ideal in our society and because we have come to believe that body size and shape are totally under the control of one person, most of the People enter diet and exercise programs with the high bar. so high that you set out to fail from the start. The whole loses 10 pounds in the 2 day mentality. It just doesn’t work.

If you continually live to achieve Jennifer Lopez’s butt or Kim Kardashian’s edgy curves, the problem is twofold. One, you will never be free from your insecurities or shyness. Second, you are not those women. You are you!

The idea is that you pump up some mental iron and act on it, then you can really look in the mirror and say “Yes, I’m skinny!” and mean it.

Hey, I really appreciate you taking the time to read this and it would mean a lot to me if you could pass this on to your family and friends … I’m sure they will appreciate it too.