Tools to make love happily

Let’s talk about sex!

Notice how deeply are you breathing? Do you usually hold your breath when you make love with your partner?

Breathing is an essential tool for making love. Only when we fully breathe do we return to our bodies and can enjoy our delicious sensuality. Breathing takes us deeper and deeper into ourselves and allows us to experience the bliss of physical intimacy.

If you look at babies, they breathe with their whole bodies and freely express all their emotions. That’s why kids are so full of energy and have that incredible look of wonder on their faces: ‘What’s next? I want to enjoy life more!’

The older we get, the shallower our breathing becomes and we become disconnected from some of our feelings. If you want to experience more pleasure while making love, take a deep breath into your belly and allow all the emotions to come up.

How do you start making love? Very often, people act very habitual and jump right into sexual stimulation. And it can be sexually exciting, but it’s very difficult to create a deep connection between lovers who are already going full steam ahead.

It is essential to create a connection before having sex and to tune in to each other so that you both feel what the other needs and wants. Then making love becomes a dance, a beautiful and connected dance of love.

The best way to create a connection is to breathe together and look into each other’s eyes. They can sit or lie facing each other and breathe, synchronizing their breathing patterns. Look deep into each other’s eyes and let the other see you in all your beauty, power, and vulnerability. Remember, vulnerability is a strength! It takes a lot of courage for others to see your vulnerability and finesse. Cherish the moments when you are completely open to the other and your soul flows from your eyes!

Looking into each other’s eyes and breathing together will build trust, openness, and synchronicity between you. When you breathe together, your heart rate will sync up. Your brain waves will sync up, you’ll be on the same page, and you’ll be able to feel better, intuitively understanding what your partner needs.

For the next 4 weeks schedule at least one hot date a week with your partner and try the following exercises. Tell him that you want to explore and deepen the intimacy between you.

1. Before making love, breathe with your partner, mimicking their breathing pattern. This will put you in sync and create an intimate connection of trust between you. Making love can go to a whole new level from this place of being deeply connected with your partner and will open the doors to sexual ecstasy.
2. Focus on deep belly breathing during intercourse.. This will draw your attention to the present moment and relax you. You will slow down and experience all the subtleties of your sensations, expanding your sensuality and sexual pleasure. Deep abdominal breathing will help you circulate your sexual energy throughout your body to allow you to experience a full body orgasm. It would help to ask your man to also take a deep breath and slow down.
3. Appreciate the unique beauty of your body. In the morning, stand in front of a full-length mirror and spend some time seeing yourself in your feminine beauty. She breathes deeply into your hips, takes in your curves and the delicious power of your hips, and finds a part of your body that you like. Focus all your attention on that part, forget anything that doesn’t survive your scrutiny. Breathe in that part and expand the sensuality through your body.